I’m worried sick that my granddaughter’s mother is abusing her

DEAR DEIDRE: I’M worried sick that my granddaughter’s mother is mistreating her and I don’t know what to do.

It’s making my son miserable and I feel terrible I can’t help.

I’m 56, my son is 30 and his ex is 32. They have a six-year-old daughter.

Their rocky relationship lasted seven years before my son broke it off nine months ago and it seems she has remained resentful ever since.

At first, she went above and beyond to restrict him from seeing his daughter. She’d tell him that he couldn’t be trusted, and would cancel visits last minute.

Eventually, it escalated and she is now taking out her anger on the child.

Most days my granddaughter is on the phone, crying because her mother has been calling her names, swearing at her, and forcing her to do unnecessary housework.

Every time my son has tried to tackle the issue he gets an earful of abuse.

I know it’s not easy being a single mum, but how can she act this way?

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DEIDRE SAYS: She’s hurting from the break-up and is projecting her emotions on to your granddaughter, but this is completely out of order.

Talk it through with the NSPCC (nspcc.org.uk, 0808 800 5000) who can advise you on the best way to handle this if you feel she is at risk.

Also speak to familylives.org.uk (0808 800 2222) who offer confidential advice. My support pack, Worried A Child’s At Risk, may be of help.



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