People think I’m selfish because I’m choosing a holiday over my sister’s wedding – I don’t care, I booked it first

PLANNING the perfect wedding takes a lot of time and patience. 

Each couple will have their own vision for the big day and will often have the support of their friends and family along the way.

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However, it doesn’t always go as planned and there could be some fall outs along the way. 

One bride is experiencing exactly this. 

Whilst arranging her wedding, her sisters caused friction by announcing that she will not be going to the wedding – due to having a holiday booked instead. 

Taking to Reddit to ask for advice, the bride’s sister, who remains anonymous, explained: “My sister and her fiancé plan on getting married in a couple of weeks. That’s great. He makes her happy. 

“They sprung this on us about a month ago.

“They don’t want a big production so it will be a small wedding and reception. Maybe 40 people all told.”

With just a month to plan the big day, the couple were hopeful that all their friends and family could come along to watch them get married. 

But the sister already had her own plans.

She continued: “I have spring break in a couple of weeks. I have been planning my trip since last fall. 

“I told her I could not attend. She asked why. I said I was going to be on vacation that week.

She thinks I’m being an a**hole for thinking my vacation is more important than her wedding

Sister of the bride

“She thinks I’m being an a**hole for thinking my vacation is more important than her wedding. 

“She got our parents involved. So I told them I would cut my vacation short to attend the wedding if she paid for my theatre tickets I’m not going to use and any cancellation or rebooking fees.

“They said that they would pay using some of the money they were planning to give her for the wedding. 

“She said I was being petty taking their money. So I said f***k it and I’m not changing my plans.”

The anonymous holiday maker pleaded for advice on Reddit.

And hundreds of people rushed  to the comments section to share their views.

Many pointed out that a month’s time frame was too short notice.

One wrote: “She’s making lots of demands for something that’s supposed to be not a big production.”

Another added: “A short-notice wedding is the same as a long-distance wedding – inconvenient for people and you can’t expect everybody to be free at short notice, the same way you can’t expect everybody to be free/want/afford to travel.

“If you being there was important to her she should have liaised with you about the date.

People getting married need to understand that everybody else’s lives don’t stop just because they are getting married

Sister of the bride

“People getting married need to understand that everybody else’s lives don’t stop just because they are getting married.”

A third person wrote: “I had a small wedding too and we had to reschedule at the last minute.

“I reached out to the people I really wanted to be there to see if they had any plans that couldn’t be cancelled. 

“My sister had a trip she couldn’t reschedule so I picked another date. 

“People save the dates for a reason; if it’s last minute it’s not on the guests to lose money or miss out on long term plans to accommodate.”